Let’s Take a Look Into Married Couples in the Bible
The first man and woman on earth were also the first married couple. Their marriage was unique to any other marriage through all the ages until today. What made it so unique? Before they sinned, they had the perfect relationship with God in their marriage.
Examples of other married couples in the Bible are the patriarchs in the Old Testament, Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebekah, and Jacob who married two women Lea and Rachel. Rebekah disapproved of the local Hittite women whom Esau had married. She told Isaac that she would rather die than allow Jacob to marry one of them.
Esau overheard his parent’s conversation and that his father was sending his twin brother to distant family to find a wife. Hoping to gain his father’s approval, Esau went to Ishmael, his father’s half-brother and married one of Ishmael’s daughters. (Genesis 27:46-28:6)
Isaiah, Ezekiel, Hosea are examples of prophets that were married. Their marriages were signs to the nation Israel. Hosea’s wife was unfaithful to him in the same way Israel was unfaithful to God. Isaiah’s one son was named Ichabod, which means the glory of God has departed.
In the New Testament Jesus healed the mother in-law of Peter, one of the disciples. Paul met and worked with the couple Aquila and Priscilla in Corinth. They were also tentmakers, the same occupation Paul had.
Relationship Problems Existed in The Bible
After the fall, sin entered into all relationships, including marriage. Thus, problems occur in marriages. Three examples of marriage problems in the Bible:
- In the Garden of Eden, it was Eve who was deceived by the snake. Eve ate from the fruit and then she gave to her husband. Adam made the choice to please his wife instead of God, and he ate of the forbidden fruit. Both had the choice of obeying God or not.
- The rivalry for Jacob’s love caused problems not only between the two sisters, but also between Jacob and Rachel. God blessed Leah, the less-loved wife, with children. Rachel had her husband’s love but her womb was barren. She envied her sister Leah and demanded the solution from her husband. She wanted him to fix her barrenness instead of going to God for a miracle. This angered Jacob.
- Sarah’s reaction of taking control of a situation instead of waiting on God, caused problems that resulted in Abraham sending his son Ishmael away from him. When years passed and God’s promise of a son to Abraham and Sarah didn’t happen, Sarah decided to take matters in her own hands. Her assumption was that God meant Abraham to have a son, but not she, because she was barren and too old to have children. Therefore she gave Hagar her servant to Abraham to conceive a son. The relationship between Sarah and Hagar deteriorated when Hagar became pregnant with Ishmael. When Ishmael was 13 years old Sarah insisted that Abraham sent Hagar and Ishmael away. She wanted nothing to threaten the future of her son, the promised son, Isaac.
Understanding Marriage in the Bible
Marriage is one of the greatest mysteries. God instituted marriage, the union between a man and a woman. Marriage is from God, whether the couple accepts God in their marriage or not.
The wisest man on earth, King Solomon, spoke about a threefold cord. When you stand alone, it is easier to be attacked and defeated, than two people covering each other’s back. It is the same with a marriage, a couple standing together, is much stronger than a person standing alone. It is extremely difficult to break a threefold cord. When a married couple invites Jesus into their marriage, they are a threefold cord, and the marriage will withstand anything.
Adam and Eve understood this and their marriage were initially based on this concept. When they sinned everything changed. The patriarchs also knew how important it was to have God part of every aspect in their lives. They did not want their children marrying into pagan nations that worship idols instead of God. Religious intermarriage was discouraged based on religious beliefs. God forbade Israel to marry into idolatry.
God is a covenant God and marriage is a covenant between a man, his wife and God.
Encouraging Biblical Verses For Husband/Wifes
Marriage is introduced in the beginning of the Bible and the book of Revelation ends with theme of marriage, the marriage of the Bridegroom Jesus Christ to his Bride. Throughout the Bible marriage is discussed: as a covenant, being sacred, from God, as a sign, and as a metaphor.
God is love and a couple marries one another because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Marriage is based on love. 1 Corinthians 13 describes love as the greatest gift of all. Without love you are nothing. Love is what brings a couple together and what keeps a marriage intact. Love is patient, kind, humble, and based on truth. Love is the fuel that endures, is not provoked and easily forgives.
The Book of Ruth tells the story of how faith and love for God redeems a destitute situation, changing it into a beautiful love and marriage. The story of Boaz and Ruth is not only symbolic of Jesus redeeming his bride; it also encourages married couples to trust in the Lord for the right partner.
The story of Hosea and his adulteress wife is the story of how God forgives and that He is a God of second chances. Hosea stayed true to the marriage covenant despite his wife’s adulterous behavior. He forgave her time and again, and in the end love conquered. There is more to gain by forgiving and giving a person a second chance than to judge and condemn. In John 8 Jesus challenged the accusers of an adulteress that whoever was without sin to throw the first stone. Jesus was the only sinless One and He forgave her.
Reflecting on God’s Word About Marriage
Bible verses that inspire, that encourages and approve Biblical marriages:
- Genesis 22:20-25
- Proverbs 31
- Song of Songs
- 1 Corinthians 7:12-16
- 1 Corinthians 13
- Ephesians 22-33
- Revelation 19:7-9; 21:2; 22:17-20